Lovely...

For the last three hours I've been at the local police station trying to keep my niece from being sent to juvenile hall. The problem as I understand it... My niece decides her Ex boyfriends new girlfriends car is too nice a ride to not have a few key swipes down the side, on the hood, all over the chassis, on the trunk, and a slashed tire... This is very hard on me morally because There is no doubt my niece is in the wrong here, It's not like she accidentally got into this mess, this was pre meditated trouble making 101 right here.

To add to my anger about this problem is that I know my niece very well. she doesn't care about the guy, or his new girlfriend for that matter.All she wanted was a reason to do something like this.

Why, why cant she resolve her problems the way non felons are supposed too?

Anyway, I suppose by showing up to take her home from the police station. That it buys her a few weeks of freedom until her court trial. But she is still looking down the barrel of juvenile hall.

In the recesses of my mind I find myself repeating the same question. What makes a person do things like this? Surely she wouldn't want someone keying her car....

I'm pissed off at her. Not because I'm some hard ass without a heart. But because this was just bold stupidity. Because she was stupid enough to do something of this caliber, Well knowing before hand that actions of this nature cause reactions.

I've told her she has one get out of jail free card with me and that's it. The next time she does something this stupid she's gonna have to pay the price like all the other dumbasses in the world,to stupid to realize they will get caught...

pffffffeee that is some serious shit

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Originally Posted by one winged angel

pffffffeee that is some serious shit

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Indeed it is. She doesn't realize it at the moment. But she will have to pay for the damage to the car, and most likely do a stretch in juvi as well.

I'm pissed at her more about the fact that she hurt herself like this. I'm all about family. Its not so much the damage to the car that pisses me off. It's the damage her actions caused to herself that pisses me off the most :(

Its a very good question. What does push someone to do something like that? Something where the reward is nothing compared to the consequences. The fact that this was almost definitely premeditated only adds to it. If it were on a whim of sorts it would be more understandable, albeit still stupid.

Is she the type of person who needs attention? That seems like the most obvious reason to me. Of course I dont know her so thats nothing more than a blind stab in the dark :P

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Originally Posted by ICE

Its a very good question. What does push someone to do something like that? Something where the reward is nothing compared to the consequences. The fact that this was almost definitely premeditated only adds to it. If it were on a whim of sorts it would be more understandable, albeit still stupid.

Is she the type of person who needs attention? That seems like the most obvious reason to me. Of course I dont know her so thats nothing more than a blind stab in the dark :P

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Well I cant really say she obsesses over attention. But she does seem to want attention from her dad. This isn't the first time she has done something drastic like this. Once she even broke into the office building of her apartment complex and busted open a vending machine, When we asked her why she did it. She said she wanted some gum and was out of change...

See my niece Thinks she's some sort of bad ass. Always getting into fights harassing her school mates. She really does have issues of some sort.

I think the true reason she is like that, is she thinks it will impress her dad. I know that sounds strange. But I believe It to be the real issue. :(

Its sad when someone feels that they need to act out like that to get attention from someone. Does her father not pay her enough attention? Ive known a few people who tend to make problems like that in their heads. They go crazy trying to get someone important to them notice them all the time even though the person already pay them enough attention.

i think she just wants to get any kind of attention from anyone by doing all of those kinds of stupid things.

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Originally Posted by ICE

Its sad when someone feels that they need to act out like that to get attention from someone. Does her father not pay her enough attention? Ive known a few people who tend to make problems like that in their heads. They go crazy trying to get someone important to them notice them all the time even though the person already pay them enough attention.

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Well, See her dads been in and out of trouble most of his life, In fact most of my nieces life he was in prison. He got out about two years ago. And since then My niece has had a real father in her life for the first time. The problem is they are just getting to know each other from a life time of being separated, so there are communication problems. Sometimes she acts out, other times she does these insane things that seem to be following in her dads past footsteps.

Of course he cares and Doesn't want her to end up with the same problems he had, But in her mind It brings them closer together.

This isn't something she has ever admitted to as a reason for her actions. Sometimes You just know why people make the choices they make. :(

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Originally Posted by kcajblue

i think she just wants to get any kind of attention from anyone by doing all of those kinds of stupid things.

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Anything is possible at this point, One thing is certain she needs some counseling or something *nods

So shes emulating how she perceives him to be in order to bring them closer? Thats a tough one to deal with. At least you sorta know what the source of this stuff is. Thats a start..

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So shes emulating how she perceives him to be in order to bring them closer? Thats a tough one to deal with. At least you sorta know what the source of this stuff is. Thats a start..

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Yes but, I know these things from a lifetime of knowing my neice. She would never admit to that, Sadly it would take a counselor years to figure that out :(