What's wrong with ExcruciationX?

**Man** · August 5th, 2007, 05:36

Hmmm sounds like you may just have an akwardness problem, i dont know exactly how to go about fixing it, just be more out-going and i dont know, it could be an offset of some sort of paranoia but im not a psychiatrist so i dont know, i hope it works out for you.

**ICE** · August 5th, 2007, 06:24

Originally Posted by ExcruciationX

You guys aren't listening.

I DO NOT have a crush on her anymore. My problem is that I can't even say one word to her, without days of planning. THAT'S my problem.

heres the thing. whilst still in the throws of passion you did some things that you fear she sees as "weird" or "awkward".
talking to here means possibly hearing about one of these incidents straight from the horses mouth and boy wouldnt that be awful???

do i win???

**BrooksyX** · August 5th, 2007, 07:42

I understand where your coming ExcruciationX, theres this girl that I went out with a few years ago and I find it awkward to talk to her. We got pretty close and the relationship ended badly. We have the same friends, so we hang out sometimes and I just feel funny when I talk to her or I turn the other way if I see her walking in my direction. I havn't had feelings for her in a long time and I actually find her to be annoying sometimes too. I have other ex-girlfriends that I talk to still as if they are my best friend. I don't know why I feel strange around her.

**JPJunkie** · August 5th, 2007, 10:40

I just wondered are you generaly a confident person or not ExcruciationX! Is this the only person your shy to talk too

hmmmmm

**Mr. Shadow** · August 5th, 2007, 11:26

To me in my thinking your crush is still going strong. I know your saying you don't want to have feelings for her anymore but looks to me like you still want her.

**Triv1um** · August 5th, 2007, 11:29

Stop thinking about what you have to say...

Just be natural, be yourself.

**parkermauney** · August 5th, 2007, 12:48

Just ignore it if you can.
In my opinion, relatoinships are kind of a waste of time, especially during the school year. After former annoyances/problems, I'm planning on staying single for a very long time.

**VampDude** · August 5th, 2007, 15:22

Originally Posted by ExcruciationX

You guys aren't listening.

I DO NOT have a crush on her anymore. My problem is that I can't even say one word to her, without days of planning. THAT'S my problem.

Let me guess...

The days you've planed out whatever it is you want to say never go as expected and you end up not saying what you want to say meaning you go avoiding her?

So basically, your shy and you lack in confidence to even speak to her. That's actually quite normal, even after all the feelings have gone because of the awkwardness of you knowing you liked her (or something like that). There are two options for you, which you could continue avoiding her or you could try talking her and get to know her as a friend (if you wanted to).