why me, why her, why anyone ??

**AvengedSevenfold Fan** · September 10th, 2007, 04:57

go find Jesus and figure out how to move on in your life. dont let it beat you down, because no matter how much you denie it, shes just another girl. same thing happened to me, and i started going to church and i just got over it all, but in my case, "charlie" as said in your i.m., was my best friend.

**steve520** · September 10th, 2007, 05:06

Originally Posted by ICE

okay sorry but im pissed now.
ive been through the same crap and i drug it out just like you and did all kinds of crap i shouldnt. ive been there i know what it is.

get the hell over yourself. you make stuff worse than it is in your head so that you can use it to get attention.

trust me when i tell you ive been to hell and back and getting this emo over a girl is total bullcrap.

suck it up.

Agreed. take advice from iCE but not all the time cause that dude is insane.

**Junixx** · September 10th, 2007, 05:12

Hrmmm.... I understand that completely. I had that problem with one of my best friends a while back, I don't know what it was, but I was depressed all the time or pissed off partially at myself. (Thats a story for another day though, PM me if your that interested X_X)
I had gone out with her at a time... but that refers to said story. Anyway back to the point...

How I found a way out was what most people said here, I changed my image and attempted to become more sociable and less shy, which has somewhat worked. Playing some kind of sport you like can help get your self esteem up, or doing something that gives you a good sense of accomplishment outside of video games and etc. Like working on a car or truck or jeep or something. You said you just moved but people will talk to you eventually, right?

1 Thing I've learned is to try not to fall for your best friends, it only ends up hurting yourself. My friend I'm talking about is still one of my best friends, but I've tried my hardest not to fall for her, turning my eyes to other girls instead, remember, theres plenty of fish the sea if you know what i mean (eh cliche)

Theres no need to do anything drastic, just push through it.

**Tetris999** · September 10th, 2007, 05:33

Originally Posted by VampDude

Stop being so melodramatic dude, your about to start being called an EMO and stuff because (and meaning no offense) your starting to sound like one.

its all right for someone to be emotional, were not all freaks that dont have feelings

if i have noticed (which is really funny) is that emo is what geeks use to diss people now because they try to revert all the attention (unwanted i guess) to these people

the real people who are emo are, people who beat the $#@! outta themselves about it and even when they do we as human beings must do the mature thing which is to help them getting over whatever is causing them pain and suffering yada yada even if we think they're crazy and loserish people just think that could be us or anybody else

dont make matters worse, i think many of you here are older than me and understand this

**SnesR0X** · September 10th, 2007, 06:03

Remember that there are going to be a lot of people you love in your life, including your friends and family, and weather you always stay close to them or not, that it was real and still matters. $#@! like this happens to everyone, (if it doesn't then that's quite rare) and that this is part of growing up. I am certain that there will be worse things you will have to get through, just know that we all try to get through it, and that makes us human.

Shadowblind, you don't like young love?

That is when you learn to deal with this stuff.

**Chameleon** · September 10th, 2007, 06:24

All these emotions your feeling are all a part of growing up, you can only take these downs and think about them as a learning experience....

I had this girl i dumped for like one of the most popular girls in school, and the popular girl just turned out to be downright stupid... and now i regret ever leaving the original girl because i think she may have been the love of my life, and to hook back up with her now would be impossible seeing as how she moved

That literally breaks my heart everyday when i think about it, but I have managed to make myself feel alot better by trying to find god in my life (like avengedsevenfold fan said) and just try to move on...

Take my word on this... as I have multiple years on you, I suggest getting over it as soon as possible, 5 years from now youll look back and think " why the hell did I waste all that time in my life"

Its not worth it, and the only person your hurting is yourself!!!

**Cap'n 1time** · September 10th, 2007, 08:34

Let me be the first to tell you, at that age you have no idea what love is. Shrug it off and enjoy life as best you can.

Also tetris999 made a good point, you can be emotional without being emo. I dont recommend doing it online though. This is what your family, close friends, and (i guess if it works for you) church is for. It should not be embarrassing to go to any of these people or organizations for help. I dont know what I would do without my best friends help, and i know he feels the same way about me too.

**ExcruciationX** · September 10th, 2007, 12:02

Originally Posted by AvengedSevenfold Fan

go find Jesus and figure out how to move on in your life. dont let it beat you down, because no matter how much you denie it, shes just another girl. same thing happened to me, and i started going to church and i just got over it all, but in my case, "charlie" as said in your i.m., was my best friend.

You don't necessarily have to go to church to get over it. I'd doubt anyone would feel socially adept after something like that.

It does take time if it's anything significant (what can I say, I now have no desire for a romantic relationship).

**Elmarco** · September 10th, 2007, 13:56

I'd think of it this way. You've just moved house, so its about time to start makin new mates. Mixin with new people. Xg917 said he can't stop thinking about this one girl. maybe mixing with new people will clear ya memory of her. Seein as your only 15, im guessin you still go to school, which is perfect. You'd be communicating with people your own age. Its a crucial stage in life that people that age are at now.
There beginin to become the people they will be for the rest of your life. And believe me, you'll need people in your life. for your sanity.